During a phone conversation with my mother last night I was advised that Oprah had interviewed Terry McMillian and her former husband, Jonathan Plummer, again — it was a follow up to the first heated interview she had with them shortly after it was revealed, to Terry, that her gallant Caribbean-Born husband was homosexual. Well, I must say that this candid interview was lighter than it’s predecessor, because the healing time was well into it’s rational stage.
It was actually nice watching the both of them smiling and treating one another respectfully this time around. Their playful interactions between one another seemed genuine, and it was quite refreshing to witness these two individuals engaging in a civil discussion as they recounted the unsettling circumstances that destroyed their marital bliss.
Terry’s calm composure throughout this interview was remarkable to me and reminded me just how resilient the human spirit really is. I’m sure there are others out there both gay and straight who have gone through similar relationship situations that resulted in one or both individuals being hurt, and regardless of how things went down the pain associated with a break up alters the spirit forever.
I cannot imagine how uncomfortable it was to go through all of this under the intense scrutiny and beaming glares of the public eye, so all I have is admiration for the strength that both of them displayed as they dealt with each other and their own inner-feelings to get past what must have been absolutely unbearable at times.
When Terry disclosed that she had dropped a 40 million dollar lawsuit against him I was floored. I was thinking to myself, did he even have 40 million dollars? Then, when Oprah asked him, during the flash back interview, why he thought he deserved any of Terry’s money, it was another moment that had me gasping. Without going deeper into some of the lengths that both had taken as they tried to hurt one another as a result of their own pain, I’ll just say that their courage to reappear on Oprah in a post interview exuded class. Perhaps their honesty about their initial reactions and feelings, as well as, their triumphant escape from all the emotional destruction will be an example for others going through a nasty break up.
I suppose the most profound statement came from Terry, when she said that there was a moment when she said “enough”, and decided to free herself from the abyss of bitterness and despair. She realized that those dark emotions were like “termites” — that they eat and eat and eat and eat, until there’s nothing left.
Well, in closing all I have to say is that their testimony provided me with serious food for thought based on how they both recovered from a horrific situation that could have destroyed them both.
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