You know, I have resigned myself to ceasing to speak when someone refuses to listen to reason. I remember this neighbor of ours, she was one of the hardest working little ladies I know, and a child she was raising was one of the biggest liars and thieves around.
She loved that child more than life itself. This child could do no wrong. If this child got into trouble in school, it was the teachers fault. If this child got in to trouble with another kid, an adult in the neighborhood, the mailman, the police, the restaurant worker… it was all their fault and never that kids fault.
This kid broke into our home and stole things out of it, and when she was told about it, she said that kid would never do anything like that. Well, as time moved on and that kid grew into an adult, that kid got into bigger trouble because that kid started running with a crowd of young adults who celebrated getting into trouble. They were always scheming and trying to get over on other hardworking people.
You want to know where that person is sitting at today…. …In prison for an undetermined amount of time. That hardworking woman burned herself and her bank account out traveling distances to see this person she raised in prison, and now she is deceased.
Was it from a broken heart, or just exhaustion? Maybe it was her time to go, but whatever the case, I cannot help but think that, had she listened to somebody instead of always being in protection mode when it came to this kid then, perhaps, he might have had a chance.
I am saddened whenever I encounter people raising children who are only interested in getting to the next party, the next high, or watching the next reality or talk show on television instead of making sure that these youngsters are being armed with everything they need to make it in life — one of those things being an education and a healthy view about the world. Vote for Obama, but will they know what that vote actually means? I know many kids that come from adverse situations at home that do rise above their circumstances and become extremely successful, but I also know so many that don’t. Too many mirror what they see their parents doing.
Adults are entitled to live their lives the way they want, and if they are into getting their head bad it’s their decision to do so, but don’t do it in front of kits, and do make sure that they are getting the attention that they deserve and the direction that they need so that they’ll have the confidence to survive out in an unrelenting competitive world. With excellent communication skills, good reading & comprehension ability, as well as, superb writing skills, they will go far in life. In addition to all of those attributes, if they possess keen problem solving savvy, they will be among those sought by employers.
Another slice of advice I can give is that parents need to teach them to show up on time, and make sure they know how to show up.
G Strings, purple, orange, pink, and blue hair with tattoos plastered on every visible part of the body, and those sagging ass drawls revealing way of wearing pants might fair well in the world of entertainment, but not in corporate America. Not many companies will higher a sideshow performer to represent their business. This might be a bitter pill to swallow but, not everybody can be a multiple platinum selling performance artist or a gifted sports athlete — it’s a nice dream, but you either have it or you don’t, and only a select few do.
I know a lot of parents who are doing the right things to make their children feel safe and secure. They make sure that their children are getting the proper education and they do not allow their children to run the streets and participate adult conversations and in indulge in adult activities before they are of age to do so; however, their are those that have a habit of tearing the spirits of their children down by telling them they are no good and that they are stupid. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. With all of the resources available now, the abuse that some have suffered in their own childhoods does not have to continue in the childhood of the children being raised.
New beginnings occur when an effort has been made to resolve unresolved issues from the past. Self-awareness is vital to recovery from painful experiences, however, one will never find peace without taking that first step towards redemption. The stigma of counseling being for crazy people has kept so many mentally distraught individuals from seeking help until it has gotten beyond ridiculous. Religion and spirituality are important, but so is a healthy mind. Unlicensed individuals giving out uneducated advice based solely on personal opinion and principles of faith are dangerous and often do not resolve a person’s issues. The act of courage comes when an individual seeks professional help to get better.
I will always make an effort to share what I know, but when I encounter the push back I shut my mouth and keep it moving. It doesn’t mean that I don’t care; it just means that life is too short. I know many kids who have made unwise decisions and now they are sitting behind bars, or have paid the ultimate price. Death… You don’t come back from death. ~GD
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